You and your husband are finally ready. It’s time to start trying for a family! In the beginning it’s easy. You just stop birth control and have fun. But then the months start to pass by and you’re not pregnant yet. So you decide to put a little more preparation and planning into this whole trying to make a baby thing.
Sometimes people hear of a couple that has experienced infertility and then gone on to adopt, and automatically think that the pain of infertility is magically gone now that there is a baby in the couple’s arms. While couples who have adopted have come to a peace and acceptance regarding their infertility, there is still a sense of loss.
When my husband and I were diagnosed with infertility we were told that our best chance for conceiving would be with Intra-uterine Insemination (IUI). We decided not to pursue that option but several of my friends in my infertility support group did. One of them recently agreed to talk with me about her experience.
How do you know when you’ve been Trying to Conceive for too long? See if any of these symptoms apply to you.
I don’t belong in the group of moms who have more than one child and I don’t belong in the group of moms who haven’t had pregnancy yet. I just don’t know where I fit anymore.
The tug is there. That maternal instinct that longs to snuggle a new born and breath in their scent. Does that mean it’s the right time to have a baby?
It’s another holiday season and there is no baby, no phone call, no adoption, and no pregnancy. Your womb remains unfilled, the adoption call hasn’t come through, and your arms are as empty as the boxes under the Christmas tree will be after the presents have all been opened.
In the beginning, trying to get pregnant is kind of fun: lots of “quality time” with hubby, the hopes of that two line Home Pregnancy Test in a few weeks…. But then, the weeks turn into months and the months may even turn into years, and well, it’s not so fun anymore.
When you’re trying to get pregnant and the months roll on without a positive pregnancy test, what was once exciting and anticipatory is now confusing and emotional. At what point do you call for a doctor’s appointment and when do you just keep trying the old fashioned way?
When we were diagnosed with infertility I went on a mission to “get healthy.” It’s not that we were that unhealthy to begin with, but I figured there were some changes we could make that might help us.